There is a lot of truth in this quote, especially for those who are positioning themselves in the wild wild jungle of the corporate world.
Be Happy. Be Yourself. If others don’t like it, then let them be. Happiness is a choice. Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.
A lot of people misunderstand that being a manager means being able to keep everyone under you and above you happy. This is a big misunderstanding for the following reasons.
You can never make everyone happy
Your job is in the job description, in the company’s employee handbook and in the Vision, Mission, Culture and Values statements of the company
You can try making everyone happy, but you also have to look into your own happiness
Let us look at the three statements above more closely.
First, you can never make everyone happy. Let us say in the sales industry. If your targets are higher and you meet them, you make management happy. If you lower the targets, you make the employees happy, but your managers upset. If you help one of your sales associates to meet the target, you make another associate jealous and angry. There will always be someone who is unhappy or there will always be someone who will ask for your arm when you offer your hand.
Second, your job can be found in your job description. Yes, please read your job description and what exactly does it entail. There will be the famous line “and anything else that management deems for you to accomplish.” However, please do read your job description and how you can match that description to you as a supervisor or you as an employee of the company. Your job is also in the company’s vision, mission, culture and values. Especially, if you are in the management team, you need to take ownership of your job and the company goals, so you can be more successful.
Finally, you try making everyone happy, but remember that your happiness is also important. Your own happiness will help you get up from bed everyday and get to work. Your happiness will help you help other people. Your happiness will help you put on that smile every day. So, be the best leader that you can be, know what your job is, find inspiration in those that count and learn to choose your battles. When it comes to making everyone happy, that may be a battle that will be worth more surrendering to.
If we are to rise above our fear and pain we must have the energy for it. Trying to deny our mistakes and keep them hidden from others is a waste of that precious energy. As we’ve already observed, we are perfectly imperfect. Mistakes are inevitable, but they can be real assets if we are willing to learn from them. Acknowledging them freely is the first step in turning our perils into pearls. What can we learn from mistakes if we’re willing to acknowledge them? Of course the most obvious payoff is that they teach us what doesn’t work. Being wrong will often alert us to another perspective or point of view. Mistakes also force us to develop new behaviors and coping styles—expanding our repertoire. Tonight Show host Johnny Carson was a master at deliberately “making mistakes” in his nightly monologue as a way of exercising his adlibbing skills. Learning what doesn’t work, seeing additional perspectives, or developing new coping skills are all priceless assets when we are going through inevitable changes in our lives. And when it comes to expanding repertoires and gaining new perspectives, we have no greater resource than humor. Be like Johnny Carson. Make mistakes on purpose. Ask dumb questions. Wear mismatched socks. Push the elevator button after it’s already lit. I call this deliberate foolishness. Acting in this way provides many benefits: 1. You will get used to feeling foolish. It’s an exhilarating feeling. 2. You will enjoy knowing that others will misjudge you and feel a false sense of superiority over you. 3. Being foolish is a good stress reliever.
There is only one way to improve your life. There is only one way to succeed. There is only one way to make positive changes in your life. The answer is work. You have to be willing to get out there and put in the time and effort. You have to be willing to face failures and carry on. Less than 1% of success results from luck or chance alone. If you are ready to work hard, there is little that you cannot achieve.
The Gift Accomplishments that are given to you will not be satisfying. Image that you want to be a star athlete in the NBA. With a snap of my fin-gers, you have the talent, and have already won several champion-ships. You do not, however, have any recollection of gaining those tal-ents, of training, or of improving your skills. You were simply given the ability. Would you feel satisfied? Maybe, at first, but after time you wouldn’t value your talents because you didn’t work for them, you didn’t really accomplish anything. The moral is that you have to put in hard work and effort in order for you to feel satisfied and successful when you reach your goals.
The Real Success Stories You’ve heard about those success stories. One day a man has an inno-vative idea and the next day he’s a millionaire. This perception of suc-cess and fortune is very misleading. What you hear about is the glam-orous lifestyle, the wealth, and success. What you don’t often hear about is how hard that man or woman worked, and how many sacri-fices they made to get where they are today. Remember that the suc-cess stories you hear have hard work, dedication, and perseverance at their core.
Free Day Give yourself a free day to rest and relax. If possible, use a weekend so you won’t have to miss any work. The hard part isn’t in taking a break, but in letting go of stress and worry as you do so. When you take a break from work and worry, don’t let problems creep into the equa-tion.
Your Notepad Carry a small notepad with you wherever you go. Great ideas and thoughts jump in and out of your mind every minute. To make the best of these revelations jot them down in a small notebook. At the end of the day, page through your notebook to elaborate on ideas, or eliminate some altogether. You never know what you’ll be able to come up with when those key thoughts are captured on paper.
Without a decision, there is not direction in our activities… Why am I telling you this and some of these other things? You might be thinking… “I thought this article was about motivation!?” Well… Motivation can be found, but motivation by itself will not lead to a bountiful harvest! You can be really motivated to do things, but if the actions you are taking are misguided, the results will be useless or even damaging. This is why the decisions you make are so important. And it’s also why the right decisions are so important. How do you make a decision of what direction to take with your business online? How do you make a decision to reach for the type of success that right for YOU? So many people don’t take the time out. If you were to take 3 days off and focus on your decisions about where you are going, you may find yourself at your destination A LOT faster. Many of us don’t take the essential time we need to concentrate on our decisions as a whole. We will make a small decision here and there, but how do they affect the big picture? Decisions can be looked at like a river… The main river that we follow though life is the one that is supposed to take us to our destination. All our rivers look different. Some are smooth as glass… some winding… some littered with rapids. Some of them take us through beautiful country, while others take us through waste lands and terrible environments. All our rivers also are fed by streams and smaller rivers… these are things that affect our decisions. Some go unnoticed and just blend in… not really affecting the flow; pure enough to blend with the current mixture and current… Others push in quickly and disrupt the flow… maybe the river will carry with it periodic disruptions in the flow… swells… an increase in current and rapids. Some may bring poison… some life. Then along the way, there are bends and twists in the river that might push us to the banks and tempt us to jump ship. You may come to a part of a river the splits in different directions… sometimes we have time to think about our direction, other times the current is to fast and we must make a quick decision that will echo throughout our lives… Negative or Positive. In order for us to make decisions… accurate decisions… beneficial decisions, we need to have the End Decision… we need to know… We need to decide what our destination is. Otherwise… the river itself will have more influence on our lives than it should. Why am I telling you this again? What do decisions have to do with motivation? Everything! Because once we grab onto motivation, it feeds on results and the results come from the decisions we make…
Many people think having a negative attitude is just another way of looking at life, or being ‘realistic.’ I couldn’t disagree more. When the choice between being positive and negative receives equal praise, we are looking at the picture all wrong. Being negative is something you should want to change. Being positive is something you should strive to become. One is not an equal to the other. One is the valley, while the other is the peak.
You Can Change The most important thing to remember about your attitude is that it can be changed. “That’s the way I am, and that’s how I will always be,” doesn’t hold up to what I have personally experienced and seen in other people. You can change every aspect of who you are for better or worse.
The Root of the Worry An unrealized goal could be causing subconscious negativity towards nonrelated areas of your life. For example, if you have continued to smoke after trying to quit for years, that stress and frustration could carry over into other areas of your life. It is important to find the source of your attitude problems. You may be trying to find solutions to a cause that isn’t responsible for your ultimate attitude.
What Are You Missing? Make a list of things that you desire in your life, but have yet to attain. This may bring to your attention the real reasons for negativity or moodiness.
Laugh Laugh at yourself. Laugh with others. Laugh out loud. Laugh to your-self. Laugh when you watch movies. Laugh when you watch television shows. Laugh when you hear jokes. Laugh when you tell jokes, but only if they’re funny. Laugh in the morning. Laugh in the afternoon. Laugh in the evening. Laughter is the best medicine for your physical, mental, and emotional health.
Put Things in Perspective No matter how bad you think you have it, someone, somewhere, has it worse. It’s not a happy thought, but it can help to put your problems in perspective. Remember to look at the big picture when it comes to your problems. You will still need to deal with them, but your attitude towards these problems will be positive and you will have a greater amount of understanding.
AN IMPORTANT PART OF GOAL SETTING and accomplishment happens at work. Using goals at work will help you to produce greater results and stay motivated, which will add to job satisfaction and fulfillment. When you bring your goal skills to the job you’ll also be making life better for your co-workers and boss. You need to enjoy your work and feel like you are reaching your full potential in your career. Goals offer a very important step towards that end. Use the tips that follow and share them with others who wish to succeed in the workplace. Communicate Your Goals to Management After creating your work goals, share them with management to make sure they are aware of the direction you are taking. You wouldn’t want to put your heart and soul into a project that management will eliminate. Fax Your Goals to Work Want to keep your goals with you at work? Have you thought of a great idea at home and want to make sure it gets to the office? Fax it! This is a great way to keep motivated at work and to have your job goals sent to you quickly and easily. Use Notes Write short reminders on a notepad and place them on your computer screen or desk. Just don’t overdo it. You want to be able to actually see your desk in the morning. Sometimes a quick reminder is all you need to make for an effective and motivated workday. Have a Work Notebook Handy When talking with the boss or working with your peers, have a note-book handy to write down goals and tasks that need to be done. Our memories are amazing but without training they can have a difficult time retrieving every fact and idea that we hear in one day. With your notes in writing, you’ll be certain to keep goals and tasks at work clear and readily available. Look to the Competition If you are having trouble thinking of the right goals to work for, look to see what your competition is doing. This will give you several ideas to work with. The Company Goals Have a meeting with your immediate boss and discuss the goals of the company. After interpreting this information you will be able to create goals that work with, and not against, your companies objectives. Conflicting goals will cause many problems internally and externally. Steer clear of these problems and talk about goals first.
BAD HABITS ARE HARD TO DROP and even harder to live with. When the correct steps are taken, a bad habit can be stopped dead in its tracks. It doesn’t matter what habits you have; you can change. You can take the bad and replace it with good. The next section offers tips that help you to drop bad habits and pick up new ones. By putting these ideas to work for you today, you will eventually break free of unhealthy and negative tendencies and replace them with healthy, positive activities. Three Weeks to Completion When you feel like you’ll never be able to drop your bad habit, re-member this; it takes approximately three weeks to break an old habit. That means you cannot expect instant results and immediate success. You have to be willing to put in the time. Knowing that it takes three weeks should help you to maintain your motivation and positive attitude throughout the process. Be patient. Temptation Take steps to eliminate habit temptation from your life. If you are try-ing to lose weight, eliminate fatty foods from your groceries. If you are trying to stop smoking, make sure your home is free of cigarettes. Simply eliminating the temptation from your daily life will go a long way to helping you break the habit. A Great Resource Write out the reasons why you want to break your bad habit. This list will serve as motivation whenever you need it. When you are feeling weak, you can take a look at your list and remember why you started the process in the first place. Just the Facts Get the information about your bad habit. One tool they use to warn children about the dangers of smoking is a picture of a smoker’s lung. The more you can learn about the negative side of your habit, the eas-ier it will be for you to say no. They say that knowledge is power, and that sentiment holds true here. As your knowledge and education in-creases, so too will your motivation to break the habit. The Reverse Reward After talking with individuals who are trying to give up a bad habit, I have come across a common obstacle that I like to call the Reverse Reward. They reward themselves with the very thing they were trying to give up. For example, someone who is trying to eat healthier, after doing so for a week, eats junk food as a reward. This is crazy thinking, and it happens all the time! Do not reward your improvement with the bad habit you are trying to give up. The Smart Reward Reward yourself with something that contributes to your plan. This may take some creativity, but with enough thought you can come up with quite a few ideas. If you are trying to get in shape, reward your-self with a healthy meal. The right reward system will get you motivated and help you reach your goals.
Carrot and stick approach of motivation is based on the 'principles of reinforcement'. Comes from the old story that the best way to make a donkey move is to put a carrot out in front of him or jab him with a stick from behind. In motivating people for behaviour that is desirable, some carrots, rewards, are used such as money, promotion, and other financial and non-financial factors. Some sticks, punishments, are used to push the people for desired behaviour or to refrain from undesired behaviour. "Though in various theories of motivation, the terms carrot and stick are avoided, these still form the basis of motivation if administered properly. Points to be taken into consideration while using it: 1). Punishment is effective in modifying the behaviour if it forces the person to select a desirable alternative behaviour that is then rewarded. 2). If the above does not occur, the behaviour will be only temporarily suppressed and will reappear when the punishment is removed. Further more, the suppressed behaviour may cause the person to be fearful and anxious. 3). Punishment is more effective if applied at the time when the undesirable behaviour is actually performed. 4). Punishment must be administered with e)treme care so that it is does not become reward for undesirable behaviour. A punishment, from one point of view, may become a reward for the person concerned. The mixture of both carrot and stick should be used judiciously so that both have positive effects on the motivational profile of the people in the organisation.
1. Sleep earlier, rise earlier - get off your phone, set a time, create a habit.
2. Read more - and not just shitty fanfics. Read them too. But read. Read classics, read newspapers, read magazines, read fictional books, read joke books. Just read.
3. Stay away from people who do not deserve you - you are worth a lot more. F*ck their shitty opinions.
4. Eat well - and I don’t mean diet. I mean, eat well. Eat healthy, indulge every once in a while, but don’t go overboard. Eat for your health and not for society.
5. Create a plan that will be enjoyable for exercise and just do it - no f*cking around this year
6. Study well - an hour every single day. Just one hour of uninterrupted, that’s all it will take. Apprendre et travail dans Francais - Je ne sais pas si ce est juste, pardon a mon francais suiveurs
7. Learn new VOCAB - because why the fuck not? Write down your new words that you learn while reading, use them in conversations; expand your vocab, because when you are sitting in the exam room, you’ll be glad you have.
8. Plan an outing once a week - have something to look forward to, to be excited for. Experience new things.
9. Set small goals - 3 small things to do every day, and don’t sleep till you have them done. 3x365 knowledgeable achievements will be worth it - trust me
10. Meet new people - don’t be so quick to judge.
11. Love yourself - I’m still trying to figure this one out, but I’m beginning to feel like I am worth it.
12. Art - practice makes perfect. Work, and when you can’t work, learn. Discover artists and their pieces, their inspirations, their style. Document it. There is always something to do to improve, whether it be through practice or research.
13. Stick to these goddamn goals. 2015 will be the sh*t if I make it.
Many people wonder how they can become successful.This quote explains what becoming successful means in the most simple terms. Truly successful people have integrity, a strong work ethic, a desire to succeed, and tenacity to keep working even when it seems that things aren’t going well. They don’t give up easily, rather they keep moving forward regardless of the number of timesthey are knocked back.
Be honest
Work hard
Don’t give up
Self-Reflection Questions:
I.Do I always act in an honest way? Do I show integrity?
II.Do I give my employer an honest day’s work for what I’m paid?
III.Am I determined to succeed without giving up?
Many people are so focused on achieving their goals that they don't enjoy the process or the journey along the way. Yes, it’s true that we set goals with the hope that we will achieve them, however there’s more to life than merely meeting a goal. We must become better people as we strive to meet and exceed the goals we’ve set for ourselves.
Set attainable goals.
Work hard to achieve those goals.
Take the time to learn and grow along the path to your success
Self-Reflection Questions:
I.Am I aware of my growth as I work toward my goals?
II.Have I set attainable, realistic goals?
III.Am I determined to follow through at any cost?
This idea may seem unusual especially since many people are only concerned with themselves. The truth is, if you reach out to help others attain their goals, they will be more willing to help you reach yours.
There’s an old saying, “What goes around comes around.” You may be surprised how true this is.
Be helpful when others need it.
Maintain an attitude of abundance and community.
Accept help from others when they offer it.
Self-Reflection Questions:
I.Am I only concerned with myself and my goals?
II.Am I willing to help others, even if it won’t benefit me?
If you stop trying to win, than you won’t have a chance. It’s like running a marathon. You can’t win if you don’trun and the more training you do, the better your oddsof winning. No matter what you do in life, if you practice over and over you’ll see improvement.
Maintain a positive mindset.
Constantly work toward your goal.
Have a short memory when it comes to past failures
Self-Reflection Questions:
I.Do I keep trying through the tough times or do I give up?
II.Do I reward myself for the little accomplishments on the way tomy bigger goals?
III.Do I see good in everything?
History has passed. We can’t change history no matter how hard we try. However, we can make choices and decisions that affect our future. Take time to dream about what you want the future to hold, instead of living your life in the past. The past only diverts your mind from the great things that are waiting for you in your future.
History is meant to be read about, not re-lived.
Start planning for the future.
See life as exciting and adventurous instead of something you have to merely get through.
Self-Reflection Questions:
I.Am I constantly looking for ways to improve myself?
II.Is there anything I’d like to do or say, but something in mypast keeps stopping me?
III.Do I tend to think negatively about situations because of thingsI’ve dealt with in the past?
Everything in life is an experience you can learn from. Beit good or bad, if you take the time to absorb the wisdom which comes from these experiences, you can use them to better yourself and the lives of others. If you’re wrong,there’s no shame in admitting it. It takes a bigger person to admit when he or she has made a mistake than it does to place blame elsewhere.
Admit when you’ve made a mistake.
Learn from your mistakes to avoid making thesame one twice.
Use your experiences to help others.
Self-Reflection Questions:
I.Do I realize that I’m not always right? Am I willing to admitwhen I’m not?
II.Do I make it a point to avoid past mistakes?
III.Have I used my life experiences to help others?
Every day is a gift we’ve been given free of charge. We mustn’t waste it away! Instead, make the most of each and every moment. After all, we don’t know just how many we’ll end up getting in our life.
Wouldn’t it be sad to know that we’ve simply wasted away such a precious and meaningful gift?
Set goals and know where you want to go.
Learn the value of life.
Remind yourself every day that life is a gift.
Self-Reflection Questions:
I.Do I know and appreciate the value of my life?
II.How did I effectively use my time today?
III.Is there someone I can help that will make my day moremeaningful and fulfilling?
So many people see themselves as failures when something they are working on goes wrong. For this reason they scrap the whole idea. What do you think would happen if they had instead started the process over again,knowing what they didn’t know the first time around? Greatness just might be achieved, but they never took the opportunity to find it because humiliation taking over.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.
Don’t wait for opportunities to come your way –create your own!
Opportunities can arise in the oddest of places.
Self-Reflection Questions:
I.Do I truly understand the power of the lesson learned?
II.Can I put my pride aside and try even harder?
III.Am I comfortable enough in my own skin that I can start over without feeling humiliated or shameful?
Confidence does not only affect people in certain area or people of a certain age group. It's a world wide problem that people of all ages can have. When one is facing self doubt or low self esteem it can ruin their day, stop you from having fun and maybe even prohibit you from achieving your goals. You can make yourself feel worse than anyone else can.However to regain your confidence, confidence building exercises may help give you that boost you need. Some of the most common confidence problems include, being afraid to do public speaking, being afraid to engage in a conversation with others, not being able to say no to others, not believing in your self, and also being afraid to go out there and take risks because your lack of confidence is holding you back. However through hard work and determination confidence is an achievable skill. When frequently practiced, confidence building exercises can be an excellent way to help you build your self esteem or deal with your confidence issues. Some confidence building exercises include standing up closing your eyes and imagine a circle which you can step into and do things that you would have never dreamed about doing. Take for example public speaking, you would say goodbye to all your thoughts that are not confident, take courage and step into your circle. With every step you take in the circle your confidence should grow. Another confidence exercise involves learning different breathing techniques so that you can relax and control your fear. Hypnosis is another technique you can use to relax and will also help you become more assertive. Confidence problems are something that no individual should have. By continuously doing some confidence building exercises you'll slowly but surely get over your fears and be that person you deserve to be.
It's your life. Nobody else's. The purest form of motivation can only come from within yourself. The truest form of acceptance and self-worth can only come from you. True happiness can only come from yourself. If you ever want to truly make a change, you need to accept responsibility for your self-worth, your happiness, and your own will to succeed.
Beginning:
So, you're struggling with school or a job. You're overweight. Your room is a mess. You have very little self-esteem. You're shy and have few friends. You know a change needs to happen and maybe you've tried and failed in the past.
Little secret: People making the most lasting improvements when staying within their comfort zone, but pushing the boundaries of it - expanding it.
So, where do you start?
1. Your room/house. It's something within your grasp right now and it shouldn't be too expensive to buy cleaning supplies.
When you clean your messy home, it will give you a sense of accomplishment, especially if the mess was really bad.
Depending on how bad it is, you can be done within a few hours. Two days maximum unless your house looks like an episode of Hoarders.
The result will be a clean, nice-smelling house. This means you will be living (for at least the next few days) in a nice environment. When your house is a mess, it's just another thing on your to-do list and the chaos and disorder of it may cause you stress or dismay. The clean environment will give you one less thing to worry about, and a positive environment to spend your time in.
2. Your clothes/personal hygiene.
If you feel dumpy, go buy some new clothes and perfume/cologne and make sure you're taking care of your personal hygiene.
I don't care how unattractive you may think you are, there are clothes out there that will flatter your body shape and look really good on you.
What's the point of this? When you look in the mirror and see how great you look in that new outfit, you get a confidence boost.
When you look and smell good, you generally feel good as a result plus people will get a better impression of you and will actually be more likely to be open to the idea of talking to you. Call it shallow if you will, but it's the way people work. To your average person, when someone looks or smells weird, it indicates to them at some level that something is wrong with you and they should stay away. It's just animal instincts.
3. Your attitude.
Everything from here takes an attitude change. You need to be happy, confident, and committed if you want to progress.
Happiness: smile more. Seriously. Just force it. Smiling releases positive endorphins that will actually make you feel happy, as well as making you more approachable.
Anxiety: You can't let it rule your life and you can't always eliminate the things that cause you anxiety. Learn to deal with it. Do breathing exercises, listen to calming music, and learn to use logic when you feel yourself getting worked up over nothing.
Confidence: Wear your new clothes. Smile. Stand up straight. Hold your head high. Copy the way confident people walk. These things subconsciously will trick you into feeling confident. If you make it a habit, your fake confidence will develop into real confidence and people will find you even more approachable.
Discipline: when you commit to something, do it. do it consistantly every day for 30 days. Then it will become a habit. Don't expect it to be easy and keep your end goals in mind. Don't think "Ugh this is so difficult... This takes so much effort..." think instead "This is difficult, but it will all be worth it when I reach my goal." and then push through it.
4. Your job/school
Apply all of these things.
Use the confidence you've practiced to socialize with coworkers or classmates and make connections.
Use your discipline to get your work done and excel.
Use your happiness and anxiety techniques to stay calm when you're having a stressful day or facing a challenge.
5. Your health.
If you're aiming to get healthier, make a plan and stick to it.
Exercise discipline and self-control by counting calories and working out consistently.
Exercise confidence by being unafraid to jog down the street or go to the gym.
Don't let your fear keep you from reaching your goals. It could be a fear of failure or it could be a fear of change... or even a fear of being attractive, as ridiculous as it sounds.
Always consult a physician before starting a diet or exercise regimen so they can make sure you're ready for it and help you pick the best route of action.
If you have concerns about your physical, mental, or emotional health, seek help from a professional. Something you've been ignoring for a while could be an actual threat to your health. Something you're concerned about could really be nothing to worry about, but you can't know for sure. Better safe than sorry.
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